{"id":50465,"date":"2017-05-31T11:20:29","date_gmt":"2017-05-31T09:20:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/?p=50465\/"},"modified":"2022-09-28T09:52:34","modified_gmt":"2022-09-28T07:52:34","slug":"i-watch-porn-when-im-stressed-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/i-watch-porn-when-im-stressed-out\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bbI watch porn when I’m stressed out\u00ab"},"content":{"rendered":"

Today\u2019s students grew up in an age that saw a great deal of technological development. This includes a rapid increase in the accessibility of porn. When Bluetooth got big, kids could use their button-clad phones to send and receive videos they downloaded from their computers. Nowadays, those kids are all grown up and it doesn\u2019t take more than a minute to connect to a porn-site and start watching.<\/p>\n

Hence my decision to seek out some of my fellow students and enquire about their histories of porn: how did they first stumble upon this world? What effect(s) did porn have on them and their sexual lives? Did porn help them in any way or do they consider it a damaging experience?<\/p>\n

But my dad is a Muslim, so it was also something scary and forbidden<\/p>\n

Woman who watched porn since the age of 12<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I roam the halls of the South Campus and visit those of the Faculty of Science. I search in the library of building 23 at KUA and venture into a cosy bar, Caf\u00e9en?, at N\u00f8rre Campus. During these outings I find many who are willing to share their views and experiences with me: 20 students in total\u2014nine women and eleven men.<\/p>\n

What follows is not an attempt to make generalizations. It is a fabric patched together from twenty different walks of life: more specifically, it is a look at the role that porn played (and plays) in them.<\/p>\n

Due to the private nature of this topic, most of my sources want to remain anonymous: in these cases only the person\u2019s field of study, department and\/or the faculty at which they are enrolled is mentioned.<\/p>\n

First Encounters: erotic writings, Channel Copenhagen and VHS tapes<\/h1>\n

Many of my interviewees were introduced to some form of pornography by the age of 12-13: twelve out of the twenty people, in fact. Among those who were above 13, we find ages 14, 15 and even 17 as the points of first encounter.<\/p>\n

\u00bbI was 12 years old. It was summer and I found some erotic stories in some women\u2019s magazines and I started searching for similar erotic stories on the internet on the family computer,\u00ab says a woman who studies Communication and Information Technology at UCPH.<\/p>\n

\u00bbAnd when you search for things like that you quickly find porn. It was something new and exciting, and I realised I\u2019d rather watch porn than read it. But my dad is a Muslim, so it was also something scary and forbidden. Also, back then I didn\u2019t know it was possible to delete the browser history! So, it\u2019s a miracle my dad never found out – when searching for \u2018Porsche,\u2019 for example.\u00ab<\/p>\n

\u00bbOne time, I actually got a virus on the computer while watching porn. The machine went black and I couldn\u2019t tell my dad about it. So, what I did was I got on a different computer and started searching for solutions to the virus on YouTube and in the end I was actually able to fix the computer on my own. That\u2019s how I found out I like IT,\u00ab she concludes and adds \u00bbso mine is a nice porn story.\u00ab<\/p>\n

The longest streak I ever went without masturbating has been the best stage of my life! You feel great.<\/p>\n

Philosophy student, who lives in celibacy until marriage<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Others found their first experiences with porn using the television: \u00bbI was in 5th grade in primary school, I think, and I saw porn for the first time on the family TV one night while my parents were asleep,\u00ab says Anders, a Computer Science student.<\/p>\n

\u00bbIt was a regular man-and-woman movie. They were doing it on the pool-table and I remember it got very boring after a while: the same screwing over and over again.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Another student, from Anthropology, says he was 14 when \u00bbthere was a videotape going around in class \u2014 a VHS. One of my friends\u2019 parents had some porn with fake, camouflage titles written on the sides of the tapes, but my friend knew which was what.\u00ab<\/p>\n

I also meet with a girl, from Biology, whose first time was with a group of classmates: \u00bbI wasn\u2019t ready. I was about 10 or 11 years old and I was at a sleepover with a bunch of girls from my class. There was this channel back then, Kanal K\u00f8benhavn (Channel Copenhagen, ed.), that showed porn during the late hours, and we watched it all night long: girl on girl, man on man, we saw everything.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Similarly, a Medical student\u2019s first experience with porn was through Channel Copenhagen around the age 11 or 12: \u00bbI saw my dad watching porn from a different room of our house and I was interested to see what it was all about. At some point later on, during a night I couldn\u2019t sleep, I watched some porn myself. But in the beginning it was out of curiosity and I thought it was disgusting.\u00ab<\/p>\n

How much porn?<\/h1>\n

Many of my small sample of students watch porn several times a week. Some do it 3 or 5 times, while others can occasionally reach 6 or 7 times per week. Such is the case of Games Technology student from ITU, Alex, who I\u2019m first acquainted with at a N\u00f8rre Campus bar:<\/p>\n

if I wanna\u2019 squeeze one out, I\u2019ll damn well do it<\/p>\n

Alex, Games Technology student<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

\u00bbSince getting started, my porn consumption underwent constant acceleration up until now. Especially because I live alone and my attitude is: \u2018if I wanna\u2019 squeeze one out, I\u2019ll damn well do it.\u2019 So now I watch porn 6 or 7 times a week. During a boring period I can watch even more.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Anthropology student number 2 tells me he watches the most porn when he\u2019s under a significant amount of stress.<\/p>\n

\u00bbI watch the most porn when I’m stressed out or when me and my girlfriend have a hard time syncing with each other. In those periods I can hit 5 or 6 times a week. I think that porn can be both a product and a cause of the busy lives we lead. I mean that porn can be helpful when I\u2019m in the fast lane, e.g. having exams, and need a quick fix; but other times porn actually prompts me to keep living the fast life instead of slowing down \u2014 those times I\u2019m less inclined to make love to my partner because it takes much more effort than opening the laptop and watching porn.\u00ab<\/p>\n

A math student, age 35, who I interview while a bunch of other math students are having a party a few meters away, watches porn about once every week. This has not always been the case:<\/p>\n

\u00bbI spent 10 years in the army and was sent off to Afghanistan twice. In the army, it was an open thing that everybody had porn. We used to go and ask each other \u2018do you have some good porn on your hard-drive?\u2019 If someone had two hard-drives, we knew one of them was reserved exclusively for porn. At that time, being locked away for six months, I guess my porn consumption might have been high.\u00ab
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\nHowever, there are also those who consume porn at a much lower rate, and those who don\u2019t watch porn at all anymore. Another math student, this time a woman, says she can\u2019t really remember the last time she watched porn:<\/p>\n

\u00bbIf I must say something I\u2019d say it was about a year ago. In the beginning I wanted to see what\u2019s out there and then I got over it. It doesn\u2019t appeal to me anymore.\u00ab<\/p>\n

As I said earlier: the more stress the more porn<\/p>\n

Male anthropology student<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Likewise, another woman from Mathematics says she has only ever watched porn 3 times in her life:<\/p>\n

\u00bbThe first one was during my high school years, the second time with my boyfriend, and then about 2 months ago I looked up bondage-sex on the internet.\u00ab Then there\u2019s a student from philosophy who strives to abstain from porn completely, and lives in celibacy until marriage:<\/p>\n

\u00bbSome people have this notion that if you live without jerking-off you\u2019re tormenting yourself \u2014 this is not true at all. The longest streak I ever went without masturbating has been the best stage of my life! You feel great. You feel awesome.\u00ab<\/p>\n

What kind of porn do you watch?<\/h1>\n

\u00bbMy taste in porn has evolved from strictly man-on-woman to e.g. lesbian and biracial. I\u2019m just being open minded and use porn as a means to seek out different forms of sex: it\u2019s a way to satisfy my curiosity. But I\u2019m not into violence, incest and degrading stuff,\u00ab says a student from Department of Media, Cognition and Communication, MEF.<\/p>\n

In a similar fashion, the Communication and IT student, who I have mentioned before, started experimenting with porn as a teenager:<\/p>\n

\u00bbI watched bondage, anal and orgies, to mention a few. I found it interesting to discover the different types of sex out there. At one point, I was so inspired I actually considered becoming a sexologist.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Such discoveries are part of all 20 students\u2019 stories. Many of them went from soft-core porn to at least acquiring some knowledge about hard-core genres such as hentai<\/secret>, Grey\u2019s Anatomy parody porn, bondage, BDSM, forced, redheads, petite women, and all kinds of other fucked up shit. No illegal stuff, but yeah I\u2019ve been places.\u00ab<\/p>\n

\u00bbI often pursue in porn what I would not pursue in real life: big chicks, for example; women I wouldn\u2019t be proud to present to mom and dad,\u00ab says Anthropology student number 1.<\/p>\n

Indeed, Anthropology student number 2 has a similar approach: \u00bbIf I want to see high school girls getting it on I look that up and find films set in those surroundings. So, really, porn is a medium to realise my fantasies. This is also why I often prefer to watch porn made in Denmark: starring girls who look like the ones I see around me in real-life. So, it\u2019s a kind of \u2018reality-stamp\u2019 for me if there\u2019s something that indicates the actors are Danish.\u00ab<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t like to look at pumped-up, plastic tits and fake, screaming orgasms<\/p>\n

Tanja studies Portugese and Brazilian<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Tanja (Portuguese and Brazilian studies) is also more intrigued by realistic porn: \u00bbI think often amateur porn is the most exciting, because it\u2019s much more realistic. I don\u2019t like to look at pumped-up, plastic tits and fake, screaming orgasms. Also, I like to see stuff where the men dominate the women, explaining what they\u2019re going to do to them, and not where dicks are pumped so hard down some poor girl\u2019s throat that she is about to be sick. As in real life, it can be good to be dominated, but respectfully.\u00ab<\/p>\n

All 20 students use free sites<\/secret> to access porn. Only one of the interviewees says \u00bbI have tried to pay for it before: when I found some video I just had to watch more of. But these subscriptions never lasted more than a month.\u00ab The MEF student says that she, too, gains access to porn through such free sites, but she\u2019s not happy about this: \u00bbIt\u2019s a bit problematic because there can be some unethical things going on. There\u2019s less security in the free-porn industry: people not getting paid, sometimes filters don\u2019t hold as well as they should and it\u2019s easy access for people doing illegal stuff, e.g. trafficking – it\u2019s more difficult to hold them accountable on these sites.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Pain: Head in a vagina, squirting pressure and rewired brains<\/h1>\n

The already mentioned Biology student says \u00bbI have been traumatised by porn a couple of times. Really. For example, I once saw a video that depicted a bald man pushing his entire head into a woman\u2019s vagina. Or, when I was a child and I watched the kid\u2019s animation series Kim Possible someone showed me a porn version of it where the main character, Kim, was banged by 3 man in all her holes.\u00ab<\/p>\n

When I ask these students about any porn-caused troubles in past or present relationships I usually receive a brief \u2018no.\u2019 But not from Biology student number 2:<\/p>\n

\u00bbOne of my exes was really into these squirting<\/secret> videos. That was his dream: to make me squirt. But I was like \u2018it isn\u2019t so easy to make someone squirt.\u2019 But he kept insisting he could do it to me so this caused some friction between us. I told him \u2018just leave it\u2019.\u00ab<\/p>\n

I have previously quoted a philosophy student who lives in celibacy, for the time being, and who is actually a Christian Protestant. We converse sitting in big, comfortable chairs in front of the large windows of the Library of English, Germanic and Romance studies. He says:<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t think it\u2019s healthy to give in immediately every time you have an urge<\/p>\n

Male philosophy student<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

\u00bbI think porn is destructive. It\u2019s just like a drug: it can rewire your brain – your dopamine receptor. You release a lot of dopamine without creating anything, you reward your brain for nothing – and the next time you will need to get a higher rush to achieve the same level of dopamine release. Thus, your taste becomes more extreme,\u00ab he says and points to a website<\/a> for more information on the matter.<\/p>\n

He then tells more about his personal reactions to watching porn: \u00bbImages hunt me afterwards and I feel like I\u2019m in a fog or having a hangover. For me it\u2019s about learning how to master my sexuality. I don\u2019t think it\u2019s healthy to give in immediately every time you have an urge – it\u2019s good to learn some self-control. I also think that sexual energy should be used towards another person in an environment of love. And if you\u2019re not in a relationship, focus this energy into something else.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Other negative side-effects<\/h1>\n

Anthropology student number 2 mentions several side-effects he considers negative consequences of porn:<\/p>\n

My taste in porn has evolved from strictly man-on-woman to e.g. lesbian and biracial<\/p>\n

Woman studying Media, Cognition and Communication<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

1. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00bbI think that porn has affected my preferences in women. Or, rather, beauty ideals that are reflected in porn. These ideals often oversee personality traits and I think this has caused me to be shallow at times.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I tend to be very visual during sex, but the ideal thing would be for me to be able to just close my eyes and make love. I don\u2019t know whether this is a male tendency or a side effect of porn.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Also, the speed of my love-making has probably also been influenced by porn. Meaning that I might have sometimes applied the way I approach porn to the way I approach my girlfriend: not being tender but being rather impatient towards her.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I sometimes need the relaxation that comes with masturbating (which I often conduct with porn). As I said earlier: the more stress the more porn. It\u2019s kind of like a cigarette or alcohol: a bit like an addiction, a way of coping.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Games Technology student Alex has also had his share of porn-related issues: \u00bbI have had what is called \u2018porn induced erectile dysfunction\u2019\u2014I was in situations where I was in bed with a really pretty lady and nothing was going on between my legs. Nothing. Also, your standards rise when you watch porn: porn-ladies are pretty while 90% of the population is not. Furthermore, it lowers your desire to seek out real sexual relations: it takes max 30 minutes to masturbate while it can take hours to get a lady (if you succeed at getting one at all).\u00ab
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\nOne\u2019s confidence can also become a victim of pornography. Consider the case of the medical student, a woman, who tells that \u00bbporn has really damaged my self-esteem when I was younger. All those \u2018perfect\u2019 women you see in porn movies really intimidated me. It took a long time to grow out of this and it can still be a bit of an issue sometimes. But now I\u2019m mostly of the opinion that if you don\u2019t like what you see: fuck off.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Gain: Education, confidence and a means to discover<\/h1>\n

Let\u2019s return to the anonymous MEF student and see what she gained from watching porn:<\/p>\n

\u00bbI think that sexual education isn\u2019t good enough at all. They teach about diseases, prevention, and then there are tiny inputs about masturbating. But they don\u2019t teach about sex in a proper, non-judgemental way – they should be more sex-positive. They should be open and they should not make kids feel bad about what they like sexually. And I think porn can help with this sometimes: it normalizes sex for people – it helped me in accepting my desires. And yes, porn definitely had an effect on my taste in sex. It allows for experimentation: I can try new things and see whether they\u2019re something for me or not. So, I think that porn benefited me more than it has done harm.\u00ab<\/p>\n

The student studying medicine shares the above discontent about sexual education and has some additional opinions on the matter: \u00bbIn sex education you are not educated on how to have sex. And porn movies can serve as guides: teenagers should learn from them. They should watch some types of porn but should stay away from others. And a girl of 11 should most certainly not watch women being hit and spit on. But there\u2019s not much to do about it. The answer does not lie in violating your child\u2019s privacy to make sure he\/she doesn\u2019t watch porn: it would have ruined my self-esteem even more if my mother would\u2019ve kept a constant eye on my browsing history. You should put some boundaries to a certain extent, but beyond that you just have to trust your kids.\u00ab<\/p>\n

I\u2019m much into BDSM-type rough stuff and porn showed me that I\u2019m not alone in having such kinky taste<\/p>\n

Woman studying mathematics<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

While the woman who I quote for the above paragraph, as you will remember, had self-esteem issues due to porn, I also meet with a woman from Mathematics who had the opposite experience: \u00bbI\u2019m much into BDSM-type rough stuff and porn showed me that I\u2019m not alone in having such kinky taste \u2014 that I\u2019m not a freak, even if I\u2019m different from the mainstream. In this way it actually boosted my confidence.\u00ab<\/p>\n

According to Anthropology student number 1, porn can also serve as a sexual catalyst in a relationship: \u00bbI have employed porn with a partner and it was useful for getting new ideas and getting in the mood.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Finally, I will let these words close the section as uttered by the Communication and IT student: \u00bbI have used porn to learn how to do some things. I started doing bondage after having seen it in porn. Nothing crazy, but a minimalist version of the bondage-sex you see in some movies. So, I think porn is a good thing. It also satisfies one\u2019s needs and having needs is part of being human.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Consequences in the grey zone: be it good or bad, it\u2019s because of porn<\/h1>\n

Some by-products of porn consumption are not easily defined as pain or gain. One could even argue that such binary labelling of the above experiences is somewhat too simple and lacks realistic complexity. However, in the case of the following examples, this identification is even more difficult. Nonetheless, they are stories that I find worthy of sharing:<\/p>\n

I have had stressful days when something made me horny and I had to have the satisfaction that comes with getting off<\/p>\n

Woman, Communication og IT student<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

\u00bbI have had stressful days when something made me horny and I had to have the satisfaction that comes with getting off \u2014 even though I was busy and had to read a lot,\u00ab says the Communication and IT student. She continues: \u00bbthere have also been times when I skipped dinner to watch some porn and masturbate: I would tell my parents \u2018I\u2019ll be out in half an hour\u2019 and I locked the door. But sometimes I would go at it for 2 or 3 hours and my siblings would be knocking on the door shouting \u2018let me in, I need my bag\u2019 and I would shout back \u2018leave me alone, I\u2019m reading\u2019.\u00ab<\/p>\n

\u00bbPorn probably did affect my sexuality in some way, but I started watching way before I first had sex: so it\u2019s hard to know how. I have a good example regarding this: I was at a Christmas party and I was talking with some people \u2014 the same age as my parents. They told me that blowjobs were not a very common thing back when they were young. Nowadays, many expect it from their partners. So, changes that I was \u2018born into\u2019 are hard to realise as such,\u00ab says another science student at UCPH.<\/p>\n

In conclusion of the grey-zone let us read a Neuroscience student\u2019s words: \u00bbPorn, for me, has very much had an effect on the sequence (or structure) of real-life sex. The way many porn movies unfold is often how my sexual endeavours develop from A to Z.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Is this a good or a bad thing? You decide.<\/p>\n

What about today\u2019s level of accessibility?<\/h1>\n

One of the notions that prompted my quest to write this article is the unprecedented level of access that people have to porn in the 21st century. I receive some intriguing answers upon my inquiry about this topic:<\/p>\n

The Philosophy student says \u00bbI think the level of accessibility should, in an ideal world, somehow be limited. Especially for children: their brains are so sensitive to stimuli that I don\u2019t think it\u2019s healthy to expose them to porn. So, in my opinion, if you can\u2019t remove porn from the internet, at least make it less accessible.\u00ab<\/p>\n

All those \u2018perfect\u2019 women you see in porn movies really intimidated me<\/p>\n

Woman studying medicine<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

The ex-military math student is also sympathetic to the idea of some sort of accessibility-restraint for children: \u00bbMaybe accessibility should be limited for, say, people under 15 or 16. But you can\u2019t ban porn: that would probably have some bad repercussions. For some, porn is the only means of sexual satisfaction and I can imagine people would get very frustrated if it was taken away from them. Violence and rape rates would probably go up.\u00ab<\/p>\n

\u00bbIn the end I think porn is a good thing. It\u2019s a healthy space for indulging in your fantasies. I also think that the level of accessibility in itself is good, but the amount of porn that some people consume can be bad. So, it\u2019s like fat people and food: we consider being fat unhealthy, but that doesn\u2019t mean the amount of food available to us and the accessibility we have to it is bad. And if you only watch porn, you don\u2019t procreate. Our species would die out quickly if everyone would only watch porn,\u00ab says Alex from Games Technology.<\/p>\n

Final thoughts<\/h1>\n

I will let Anthropology student number 2 draw the curtains on this article:<\/p>\n

\u00bbIn our normative society, everything you are is based on how you act. And there are high sexual restriction: if you loose these sexual boundaries you risk loosing everything. These boundaries result in the creation of a space for pornography to exist in \u2014 a space where things have to be made explicit. This space is a symptom of a diseased society that is not primal, not natural. Don\u2019t get me wrong, you need these boundaries to maintain order, but they deny certain aspects of our nature nonetheless.\u00ab
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This includes a rapid increase in the accessibility of porn. When Bluetooth got big, kids could use their button-clad phones to send and receive videos they downloaded from their computers. Nowadays, those kids are all grown up and it doesn\u2019t take more than a minute to connect to a porn-site and start watching.<\/p>\n<p>Hence my decision to seek out some of my fellow students and enquire about their histories of porn: how did they first stumble upon this world? What effect(s) did porn have on them and their sexual lives? Did porn help them in any way or do they consider it a damaging experience?<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>But my dad is a Muslim, so it was also something scary and forbidden<\/p>\n<p class=\"quotee\">Woman who watched porn since the age of 12<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I roam the halls of the South Campus and visit those of the Faculty of Science. I search in the library of building 23 at KUA and venture into a cosy bar, Caf\u00e9en?, at N\u00f8rre Campus. During these outings I find many who are willing to share their views and experiences with me: 20 students in total\u2014nine women and eleven men.<\/p>\n<p>What follows is not an attempt to make generalizations. It is a fabric patched together from twenty different walks of life: more specifically, it is a look at the role that porn played (and plays) in them.<\/p>\n<p>Due to the private nature of this topic, most of my sources want to remain anonymous: in these cases only the person\u2019s field of study, department and\/or the faculty at which they are enrolled is mentioned.<\/p>\n<h1>First Encounters: erotic writings, Channel Copenhagen and VHS tapes<\/h1>\n<p>Many of my interviewees were introduced to some form of pornography by the age of 12-13: twelve out of the twenty people, in fact. Among those who were above 13, we find ages 14, 15 and even 17 as the points of first encounter.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbI was 12 years old. It was summer and I found some erotic stories in some women\u2019s magazines and I started searching for similar erotic stories on the internet on the family computer,\u00ab says a woman who studies Communication and Information Technology at UCPH.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbAnd when you search for things like that you quickly find porn. It was something new and exciting, and I realised I\u2019d rather watch porn than read it. But my dad is a Muslim, so it was also something scary and forbidden. Also, back then I didn\u2019t know it was possible to delete the browser history! So, it\u2019s a miracle my dad never found out – when searching for \u2018Porsche,\u2019 for example.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbOne time, I actually got a virus on the computer while watching porn. The machine went black and I couldn\u2019t tell my dad about it. So, what I did was I got on a different computer and started searching for solutions to the virus on YouTube and in the end I was actually able to fix the computer on my own. That\u2019s how I found out I like IT,\u00ab she concludes and adds \u00bbso mine is a nice porn story.\u00ab<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>The longest streak I ever went without masturbating has been the best stage of my life! You feel great.<\/p>\n<p class=\"quotee\">Philosophy student, who lives in celibacy until marriage<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Others found their first experiences with porn using the television: \u00bbI was in 5th grade in primary school, I think, and I saw porn for the first time on the family TV one night while my parents were asleep,\u00ab says Anders, a Computer Science student.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbIt was a regular man-and-woman movie. They were doing it on the pool-table and I remember it got very boring after a while: the same screwing over and over again.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Another student, from Anthropology, says he was 14 when \u00bbthere was a videotape going around in class \u2014 a VHS. One of my friends\u2019 parents had some porn with fake, camouflage titles written on the sides of the tapes, but my friend knew which was what.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>I also meet with a girl, from Biology, whose first time was with a group of classmates: \u00bbI wasn\u2019t ready. I was about 10 or 11 years old and I was at a sleepover with a bunch of girls from my class. There was this channel back then, Kanal K\u00f8benhavn (Channel Copenhagen, ed.), that showed porn during the late hours, and we watched it all night long: girl on girl, man on man, we saw everything.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Similarly, a Medical student\u2019s first experience with porn was through Channel Copenhagen around the age 11 or 12: \u00bbI saw my dad watching porn from a different room of our house and I was interested to see what it was all about. At some point later on, during a night I couldn\u2019t sleep, I watched some porn myself. But in the beginning it was out of curiosity and I thought it was disgusting.\u00ab<\/p>\n<h1>How much porn?<\/h1>\n<p>Many of my small sample of students watch porn several times a week. Some do it 3 or 5 times, while others can occasionally reach 6 or 7 times per week. Such is the case of Games Technology student from ITU, Alex, who I\u2019m first acquainted with at a N\u00f8rre Campus bar:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>if I wanna\u2019 squeeze one out, I\u2019ll damn well do it<\/p>\n<p class=\"quotee\">Alex, Games Technology student<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>\u00bbSince getting started, my porn consumption underwent constant acceleration up until now. Especially because I live alone and my attitude is: \u2018if I wanna\u2019 squeeze one out, I\u2019ll damn well do it.\u2019 So now I watch porn 6 or 7 times a week. During a boring period I can watch even more.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Anthropology student number 2 tells me he watches the most porn when he\u2019s under a significant amount of stress.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbI watch the most porn when I’m stressed out or when me and my girlfriend have a hard time syncing with each other. In those periods I can hit 5 or 6 times a week. I think that porn can be both a product and a cause of the busy lives we lead. I mean that porn can be helpful when I\u2019m in the fast lane, e.g. having exams, and need a quick fix; but other times porn actually prompts me to keep living the fast life instead of slowing down \u2014 those times I\u2019m less inclined to make love to my partner because it takes much more effort than opening the laptop and watching porn.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>A math student, age 35, who I interview while a bunch of other math students are having a party a few meters away, watches porn about once every week. This has not always been the case:<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbI spent 10 years in the army and was sent off to Afghanistan twice. In the army, it was an open thing that everybody had porn. We used to go and ask each other \u2018do you have some good porn on your hard-drive?\u2019 If someone had two hard-drives, we knew one of them was reserved exclusively for porn. 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You feel awesome.\u00ab<\/p>\n<h1>What kind of porn do you watch?<\/h1>\n<p>\u00bbMy taste in porn has evolved from strictly man-on-woman to e.g. lesbian and biracial. I\u2019m just being open minded and use porn as a means to seek out different forms of sex: it\u2019s a way to satisfy my curiosity. But I\u2019m not into violence, incest and degrading stuff,\u00ab says a student from Department of Media, Cognition and Communication, MEF.<\/p>\n<p>In a similar fashion, the Communication and IT student, who I have mentioned before, started experimenting with porn as a teenager:<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbI watched bondage, anal and orgies, to mention a few. I found it interesting to discover the different types of sex out there. At one point, I was so inspired I actually considered becoming a sexologist.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Such discoveries are part of all 20 students\u2019 stories. Many of them went from soft-core porn to at least acquiring some knowledge about hard-core genres such as <secret text=\"Japanese animation porn.\">hentai<\/secret>, Grey\u2019s Anatomy parody porn, bondage, BDSM, forced, redheads, petite women, and all kinds of other fucked up shit. No illegal stuff, but yeah I\u2019ve been places.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbI often pursue in porn what I would not pursue in real life: big chicks, for example; women I wouldn\u2019t be proud to present to mom and dad,\u00ab says Anthropology student number 1.<\/p>\n<p>Indeed, Anthropology student number 2 has a similar approach: \u00bbIf I want to see high school girls getting it on I look that up and find films set in those surroundings. So, really, porn is a medium to realise my fantasies. This is also why I often prefer to watch porn made in Denmark: starring girls who look like the ones I see around me in real-life. So, it\u2019s a kind of \u2018reality-stamp\u2019 for me if there\u2019s something that indicates the actors are Danish.\u00ab<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>I don\u2019t like to look at pumped-up, plastic tits and fake, screaming orgasms<\/p>\n<p class=\"quotee\">Tanja studies Portugese and Brazilian<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Tanja (Portuguese and Brazilian studies) is also more intrigued by realistic porn: \u00bbI think often amateur porn is the most exciting, because it\u2019s much more realistic. I don\u2019t like to look at pumped-up, plastic tits and fake, screaming orgasms. Also, I like to see stuff where the men dominate the women, explaining what they\u2019re going to do to them, and not where dicks are pumped so hard down some poor girl\u2019s throat that she is about to be sick. As in real life, it can be good to be dominated, but respectfully.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>All 20 students use <secret text=\"Sites like pornhub, xhamster and redtube are mentioned.\">free sites<\/secret> to access porn. Only one of the interviewees says \u00bbI have tried to pay for it before: when I found some video I just had to watch more of. But these subscriptions never lasted more than a month.\u00ab The MEF student says that she, too, gains access to porn through such free sites, but she\u2019s not happy about this: \u00bbIt\u2019s a bit problematic because there can be some unethical things going on. There\u2019s less security in the free-porn industry: people not getting paid, sometimes filters don\u2019t hold as well as they should and it\u2019s easy access for people doing illegal stuff, e.g. trafficking – it\u2019s more difficult to hold them accountable on these sites.\u00ab<\/p>\n<h1>Pain: Head in a vagina, squirting pressure and rewired brains<\/h1>\n<p>The already mentioned Biology student says \u00bbI have been traumatised by porn a couple of times. Really. For example, I once saw a video that depicted a bald man pushing his entire head into a woman\u2019s vagina. Or, when I was a child and I watched the kid\u2019s animation series Kim Possible someone showed me a porn version of it where the main character, Kim, was banged by 3 man in all her holes.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>When I ask these students about any porn-caused troubles in past or present relationships I usually receive a brief \u2018no.\u2019 But not from Biology student number 2:<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbOne of my exes was really into these <secret text=\"Female ejaculation.\">squirting<\/secret> videos. That was his dream: to make me squirt. But I was like \u2018it isn\u2019t so easy to make someone squirt.\u2019 But he kept insisting he could do it to me so this caused some friction between us. I told him \u2018just leave it\u2019.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>I have previously quoted a philosophy student who lives in celibacy, for the time being, and who is actually a Christian Protestant. We converse sitting in big, comfortable chairs in front of the large windows of the Library of English, Germanic and Romance studies. He says:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>I don\u2019t think it\u2019s healthy to give in immediately every time you have an urge<\/p>\n<p class=\"quotee\">Male philosophy student<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>\u00bbI think porn is destructive. It\u2019s just like a drug: it can rewire your brain – your dopamine receptor. You release a lot of dopamine without creating anything, you reward your brain for nothing – and the next time you will need to get a higher rush to achieve the same level of dopamine release. Thus, your taste becomes more extreme,\u00ab he says and points to <a href=\"https:\/\/yourbrainonporn.com\/\">a website<\/a> for more information on the matter.<\/p>\n<p>He then tells more about his personal reactions to watching porn: \u00bbImages hunt me afterwards and I feel like I\u2019m in a fog or having a hangover. For me it\u2019s about learning how to master my sexuality. I don\u2019t think it\u2019s healthy to give in immediately every time you have an urge – it\u2019s good to learn some self-control. I also think that sexual energy should be used towards another person in an environment of love. And if you\u2019re not in a relationship, focus this energy into something else.\u00ab<\/p>\n<h1>Other negative side-effects<\/h1>\n<p>Anthropology student number 2 mentions several side-effects he considers negative consequences of porn:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>My taste in porn has evolved from strictly man-on-woman to e.g. lesbian and biracial<\/p>\n<p class=\"quotee\">Woman studying Media, Cognition and Communication<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>1. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00bbI think that porn has affected my preferences in women. Or, rather, beauty ideals that are reflected in porn. These ideals often oversee personality traits and I think this has caused me to be shallow at times.<\/p>\n<p>2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I tend to be very visual during sex, but the ideal thing would be for me to be able to just close my eyes and make love. I don\u2019t know whether this is a male tendency or a side effect of porn.<\/p>\n<p>3.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Also, the speed of my love-making has probably also been influenced by porn. Meaning that I might have sometimes applied the way I approach porn to the way I approach my girlfriend: not being tender but being rather impatient towards her.<\/p>\n<p>4.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I sometimes need the relaxation that comes with masturbating (which I often conduct with porn). As I said earlier: the more stress the more porn. It\u2019s kind of like a cigarette or alcohol: a bit like an addiction, a way of coping.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Games Technology student Alex has also had his share of porn-related issues: \u00bbI have had what is called \u2018porn induced erectile dysfunction\u2019\u2014I was in situations where I was in bed with a really pretty lady and nothing was going on between my legs. Nothing. Also, your standards rise when you watch porn: porn-ladies are pretty while 90% of the population is not. Furthermore, it lowers your desire to seek out real sexual relations: it takes max 30 minutes to masturbate while it can take hours to get a lady (if you succeed at getting one at all).\u00ab<\/p>\n"},{"acf_fc_layout":"Quote","quote":"I often pursue in porn what I would not pursue in real life: big chicks, for example; women I wouldn\u2019t be proud to present to mom and dad\r\n\r\n","quotee":"Male Anthropology student","style":"extended"},{"acf_fc_layout":"Content","content":"<p>One\u2019s confidence can also become a victim of pornography. Consider the case of the medical student, a woman, who tells that \u00bbporn has really damaged my self-esteem when I was younger. All those \u2018perfect\u2019 women you see in porn movies really intimidated me. It took a long time to grow out of this and it can still be a bit of an issue sometimes. But now I\u2019m mostly of the opinion that if you don\u2019t like what you see: fuck off.\u00ab<\/p>\n<h1>Gain: Education, confidence and a means to discover<\/h1>\n<p>Let\u2019s return to the anonymous MEF student and see what she gained from watching porn:<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbI think that sexual education isn\u2019t good enough at all. They teach about diseases, prevention, and then there are tiny inputs about masturbating. But they don\u2019t teach about sex in a proper, non-judgemental way – they should be more sex-positive. They should be open and they should not make kids feel bad about what they like sexually. And I think porn can help with this sometimes: it normalizes sex for people – it helped me in accepting my desires. And yes, porn definitely had an effect on my taste in sex. It allows for experimentation: I can try new things and see whether they\u2019re something for me or not. So, I think that porn benefited me more than it has done harm.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>The student studying medicine shares the above discontent about sexual education and has some additional opinions on the matter: \u00bbIn sex education you are not educated on how to have sex. And porn movies can serve as guides: teenagers should learn from them. They should watch some types of porn but should stay away from others. And a girl of 11 should most certainly not watch women being hit and spit on. But there\u2019s not much to do about it. The answer does not lie in violating your child\u2019s privacy to make sure he\/she doesn\u2019t watch porn: it would have ruined my self-esteem even more if my mother would\u2019ve kept a constant eye on my browsing history. You should put some boundaries to a certain extent, but beyond that you just have to trust your kids.\u00ab<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>I\u2019m much into BDSM-type rough stuff and porn showed me that I\u2019m not alone in having such kinky taste<\/p>\n<p class=\"quotee\">Woman studying mathematics<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>While the woman who I quote for the above paragraph, as you will remember, had self-esteem issues due to porn, I also meet with a woman from Mathematics who had the opposite experience: \u00bbI\u2019m much into BDSM-type rough stuff and porn showed me that I\u2019m not alone in having such kinky taste \u2014 that I\u2019m not a freak, even if I\u2019m different from the mainstream. In this way it actually boosted my confidence.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>According to Anthropology student number 1, porn can also serve as a sexual catalyst in a relationship: \u00bbI have employed porn with a partner and it was useful for getting new ideas and getting in the mood.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Finally, I will let these words close the section as uttered by the Communication and IT student: \u00bbI have used porn to learn how to do some things. I started doing bondage after having seen it in porn. Nothing crazy, but a minimalist version of the bondage-sex you see in some movies. So, I think porn is a good thing. It also satisfies one\u2019s needs and having needs is part of being human.\u00ab<\/p>\n<h1>Consequences in the grey zone: be it good or bad, it\u2019s because of porn<\/h1>\n<p>Some by-products of porn consumption are not easily defined as pain or gain. One could even argue that such binary labelling of the above experiences is somewhat too simple and lacks realistic complexity. However, in the case of the following examples, this identification is even more difficult. Nonetheless, they are stories that I find worthy of sharing:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>I have had stressful days when something made me horny and I had to have the satisfaction that comes with getting off<\/p>\n<p class=\"quotee\">Woman, Communication og IT student<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>\u00bbI have had stressful days when something made me horny and I had to have the satisfaction that comes with getting off \u2014 even though I was busy and had to read a lot,\u00ab says the Communication and IT student. She continues: \u00bbthere have also been times when I skipped dinner to watch some porn and masturbate: I would tell my parents \u2018I\u2019ll be out in half an hour\u2019 and I locked the door. But sometimes I would go at it for 2 or 3 hours and my siblings would be knocking on the door shouting \u2018let me in, I need my bag\u2019 and I would shout back \u2018leave me alone, I\u2019m reading\u2019.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbPorn probably did affect my sexuality in some way, but I started watching way before I first had sex: so it\u2019s hard to know how. I have a good example regarding this: I was at a Christmas party and I was talking with some people \u2014 the same age as my parents. They told me that blowjobs were not a very common thing back when they were young. Nowadays, many expect it from their partners. So, changes that I was \u2018born into\u2019 are hard to realise as such,\u00ab says another science student at UCPH.<\/p>\n<p>In conclusion of the grey-zone let us read a Neuroscience student\u2019s words: \u00bbPorn, for me, has very much had an effect on the sequence (or structure) of real-life sex. The way many porn movies unfold is often how my sexual endeavours develop from A to Z.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Is this a good or a bad thing? You decide.<\/p>\n<h1>What about today\u2019s level of accessibility?<\/h1>\n<p>One of the notions that prompted my quest to write this article is the unprecedented level of access that people have to porn in the 21st century. I receive some intriguing answers upon my inquiry about this topic:<\/p>\n<p>The Philosophy student says \u00bbI think the level of accessibility should, in an ideal world, somehow be limited. Especially for children: their brains are so sensitive to stimuli that I don\u2019t think it\u2019s healthy to expose them to porn. So, in my opinion, if you can\u2019t remove porn from the internet, at least make it less accessible.\u00ab<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>All those \u2018perfect\u2019 women you see in porn movies really intimidated me<\/p>\n<p class=\"quotee\">Woman studying medicine<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>The ex-military math student is also sympathetic to the idea of some sort of accessibility-restraint for children: \u00bbMaybe accessibility should be limited for, say, people under 15 or 16. But you can\u2019t ban porn: that would probably have some bad repercussions. For some, porn is the only means of sexual satisfaction and I can imagine people would get very frustrated if it was taken away from them. Violence and rape rates would probably go up.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbIn the end I think porn is a good thing. It\u2019s a healthy space for indulging in your fantasies. I also think that the level of accessibility in itself is good, but the amount of porn that some people consume can be bad. So, it\u2019s like fat people and food: we consider being fat unhealthy, but that doesn\u2019t mean the amount of food available to us and the accessibility we have to it is bad. And if you only watch porn, you don\u2019t procreate. Our species would die out quickly if everyone would only watch porn,\u00ab says Alex from Games Technology.<\/p>\n<h1>Final thoughts<\/h1>\n<p>I will let Anthropology student number 2 draw the curtains on this article:<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbIn our normative society, everything you are is based on how you act. And there are high sexual restriction: if you loose these sexual boundaries you risk loosing everything. These boundaries result in the creation of a space for pornography to exist in \u2014 a space where things have to be made explicit. This space is a symptom of a diseased society that is not primal, not natural. Don\u2019t get me wrong, you need these boundaries to maintain order, but they deny certain aspects of our nature nonetheless.\u00ab<\/p>\n"},{"acf_fc_layout":"ArticleEnd"},{"acf_fc_layout":"Banner","img":false,"url":""},{"acf_fc_layout":"OtherStories","headline":"","hand_picked_posts":false,"references":false,"category":false,"theme":false,"number_of_posts":"4","style":"default"}],"article_updated":""},"taxonomyData":{"category":[{"term_id":44,"name":"Campus","slug":"campus","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":44,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":0,"count":1547,"filter":"raw"},{"term_id":110,"name":"Other","slug":"other","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":110,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":0,"count":13,"filter":"raw"}],"post_tag":[{"term_id":599,"name":"Porn","slug":"porn","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":599,"taxonomy":"post_tag","description":"","parent":0,"count":1,"filter":"raw"},{"term_id":752,"name":"Stress","slug":"stress-en","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":752,"taxonomy":"post_tag","description":"","parent":0,"count":16,"filter":"raw"}],"post_format":[],"expression":[{"term_id":18,"name":"Feature Article","slug":"feature_article","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":18,"taxonomy":"expression","description":"","parent":0,"count":1200,"filter":"raw"}],"translation_priority":[]},"featured_media_url":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/seng.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50465","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/31"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=50465"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50465\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":50546,"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50465\/revisions\/50546"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/50396"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=50465"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=50465"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/uniavisen.dk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=50465"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}